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Stage 1 - A Mildly Alienated Child of Parental Alienation Syndrome

Mild

With the mild PAS parent, they may on the surface encourage involvement with the other parent, but their behavior typically tries to give them a perceived advantage to the child as in I’m better then him or her.

In mild cases of PAS there is some parental programming, but Contact with the targeted parent is not seriously affected and Contact can generally be maintained without too much difficulty, although the child may appear distressed at the time of transition.

Detecting PAS in the mild stage however is trickier, as the PAS-inducing parent’s behaviour is generally more subtle and possibly unconscious. The PAS-inducing parent is likely to deny any motivation and/or acts, and states the opposite of what is true. Although statements made by the PAS-inducing parent may be sincerely meant, their view of the targeted parent is compromised and indicated by behaviour.

The following is not an exhaustive list, but other factors in the mild stage would include:

1. When one parent gets a new partner/remarries or has another child.

2. Where little regard is paid to the importance of Contact with the other parent.

3. A lack of value/encouragement regarding Indirect Contact between periods of Direct Contact.

4. Little awareness of the distress that a child may feel if Direct Contact or Indirect Contact (i.e. phone call) is missed.

5. The inability to tolerate the presence of the targeted parent, even at events that are important to the child.

The PAS-inducing parent may be aware that the child needs the other parent, but this rational belief may be overwhelmed by other factors at this stage.

The child in the mild stage will invariably have a reasonably healthy relationship with the PAS-inducing parent and the child usually participates in the campaign of denigration to maintain the primary emotional bond with that parent. Not aware of the feelings that motivate the unconscious PAS-inducing behaviour, the evaluator must look at the underlying messages that are given directly to the child. The mild stage of PAS is generally seen prior to hostile Court proceedings or where Court proceedings are less intense. The wishes and feelings of the child regarding the targeted parent are the first signs in detecting the PAS-induced behaviour.

Children in the mild category exhibit relatively superficial manifestations of the eight primary symptoms: campaign of denigration; weak, frivolous, or absurd rationalizations for the deprecation; lack of ambivalence; the "independent thinker" phenomenon; reflexive support of the loved parent in the parental conflict; absence of guilt; the presence of borrowed scenarios; and spread of the animosity to the extended family of the hated parent. Most often only a few of these eight symptoms are present. It is in the moderate type, and especially in the severe type, that most, if not all of them are seen. Visitation is usually smooth with few difficulties at the time of transition. Once in the alientated parent's home the children may be completely free of denigrating comments or, at most, such comments are intermittent and mild. The children's primary motive in contributing to the campaign of denigration is to maintain the stronger, healthy psychological bond that they have developed with their alientating parent.

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Stage 2 - A Moderate Alienated Child of Parental Alienation Syndrome

Moderate

In the moderate PAS situation, the alienating parent will clearly interfere with the visitation of the other parent but on the surface support the other parent’s involvement. There are cases where the child’s time is completely filled by socially accepted activities, even enriching ones, but these of course prevent the child from being the other parent. When the other parent objects, well, he or she must not really care about the child because they want to interfere with the child’s activities!

In moderate cases of PAS there is a significant degree of parental programming, that results in significant problems around the time of Contact. The PAS-inducing parent is very likely to interact with the targeted parent in a manner designed to create conflict so that Contact will eventually wither and die. In the moderate stage the child will display anxiety on a more frequent basis around the time of transition, and in all other circumstances. The child’s anxiety normally passes once transition has taken place and very soon afterwards the child is able to relax and become involved with the targeted parent. The child’s bond with the PAS-inducing parent is reasonably healthy, although they will probably share the same conviction that the vilification directed at the targeted parent is justified.

The following is not an exhaustive list, but other factors to consider in the moderate stage would include:

The PAS-inducing parent refusing to communicate or co-operate directly with the targeted parent.

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Stage 3 - A Severely Alienated Child of Parental Alienation Syndrome

Severe

The Honorable Judge Gomery of Canada stated, “Hatred is not an emotion that comes naturally to a child. It has to be taught. A parent who would teach a child to hate the other parent represents a grave and persistent danger to the mental and emotional health of that child.”

Finally, the severe PAS the children are brainwashed (Dr. Gardner stays away from that term), programmed and redirected away from a parent they typically had a relationship with before. These children will frequently be vocal in telling anyone and everyone that do not want to be with, see or even talk to that parent.

In severe PAS the child is often fanatic or obsessional in his/her hatred of the target parent. For this reason alone the PAS-inducing parent no longer needs to be active, although the PAS–inducing parent will resort to anything to prevent the child maintaining a relationship with the targeted parent. The child takes on the PAS-inducing parent’s desires, emotions and hatreds and verbalises them all as its own. The child views the history of the targeted parent and the targeted parent’s family as all negative and is unable to either remember or express any positive feelings for the target parent.

The child is very likely to refuse Contact, make false allegations of abuse, threaten to run away, threaten to commit suicide or even murder - if forced to see the targeted parent. The PAS-inducing parent will hold little or no value for the targeted parent and hatred may be completely overt. The child and the alienating parent have a pathological bond that is invariably based on shared paranoid fantasies of the targeted parent, sometimes to the point of folie a deux.

What Does a Severely Alienated Child look like?

Children in the severe category are generally quite disturbed and are usually fanatic. They join together with their alienating parent in a folie à deux relationship in which they share her paranoid fantasies about the alienated parent. All eight of the primary symptomatic manifestations are likely to be present to a significant degree, even more prominent than in the moderate category. Children in this category may become panic-stricken over the prospect of visiting with their alienated parent. Their blood-curdling shrieks, panicked states, and rage outbursts may be so severe that visitation is impossible. If placed in the alienated parent's home they may run away, become paralyzed with morbid fear, or may become so continuously provocative and so destructive that removal becomes necessary. Unlike children in the moderate and mild categories, their panic and hostility may not be reduced in the alienated parent's home, even when separated from their alienating parents for significant periods. Whereas in the mild and moderate categories the children's primary motive is to strengthen the stronger, healthy psychological bond with the alienating parent, in the severe category the psychological bond with the alienating parent is pathological (often paranoid) and the symptoms serve to strengthen this pathological bond.